I often find it hard to explain to people my perspective on
what my Rainbow family means to me. Some gatherers argue that we are
individuals, but I have always felt that while we are individuals, we mean more
to each other than the random people who show up at a football game. I view the
gathering as a big dysfunctional family. However, the word ‘family’ is loaded
with baggage so sometimes it’s easier to use other words.
In
The Values of Belonging by Carol
Lee Flinders (co-author of the
Laurel's Kitchen cookbooks), she puts forth
the principles of belonging in the introduction to the book. Reading them, I
felt she was expressing what the gathering means to me in terms of our
relationships to each other. She makes the point that the values of belonging
say “
This is where I belong” while the values of mainstream Western civilization
would stay, “
This belongs to me.” If you want to learn more about her and her
work, visit her
website. In the interest of sharing,
I’ve included the bullet points of her values of belonging which for me
expresses some of the best aspects of gathering.
- Intimate connection with the land to which one “belongs.”
- Empathetic relationship to animals
- Self-restraining
- Custodial conservatism
- Deliberateness (being present)
- Balance
- Expressiveness
- Generosity
- Egalitarianism
- Mutuality
- Affinity for alternative modes of knowing
- Playfulness
- Inclusiveness
- Nonviolent conflict resolution
- Openness to spirit.
What do you think?
